Constructive Wallowing

Constructive Wallowing

Book - 2014
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"Constructive wallowing" seems like an oxymoron. Constructive is a good thing, but wallowing is bad. Right? But wait a minute; is it really so terrible to give ourselves a time-out to feel our feelings? Or is it possible that wallowing is an act of loving kindness, right when we need it most? Almost everyone loves the idea of self-compassion - the notion that maybe in spite of our messy emotions and questionable behavior, we really aren't all that bad. In recent years there's been an explosion of books that encourage readers to stop beating themselves up for being human, which is terrific. Unfortunately, readers who aren't interested in Buddhism or meditation have been left out in the cold. Constructive Wallowing is the first book to cut right to the chase, bypassing descriptions of Eastern philosophy and meditation techniques to teach readers how to accept and feel their feelings with self-compassion for greater emotional health. It's tempting to turn away from menacing, uncomfortable feelings like anger, grief, or regret; however, ignoring them just seems to make them stick around. By learning to accept and embrace, difficult feelings, readers keep their sense of personal power and gain greater understanding and ultimately esteem for themselves.
Publisher: Berkeley, Calif. :, Viva Editions,, 2014
ISBN: 9781936740802
Branch Call Number: 152.4 GIL
Characteristics: xxxix, 252 pages : illustrations ; 21 cm


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Cynthia_N Dec 07, 2015

Good book with some great ideas for what to do when your emotions seem to be getting the best of you. I loved the T.R.U.T.H. method. It just makes sense. So does the book.

Aug 04, 2015

SUMMARY: This book contains the advice that when strong emotions come up, instead of trying to ignore them or feel bad about them--just have them! Gilbertson takes you through steps of how you can wallow in your emotions and then to let them go instead of bottling up emotions over time and letting them take over your life.

REVIEW: I found this book to be very helpful. Gilbertson helps you get more in touch with what feelings actually are and why having them is a good thing. I like her TRUTH steps for how to recognize feelings for what they are, have them, and then let them go so you can move on. I tried this and found it to be very helpful.

Feb 27, 2014

As of the time I'm writing this, the book hasn't arrived yet. But you can get some idea of Gilbertson's approach by watching the attached interview. (Click on the Video tab for this book.)

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