The Involved Father
Family-tested Solutions for Getting Dads to Participate More in the Daily Lives of Their ChildrenBook - 1999
The Secret to a Parenting PartnershipThe Involved Father tackles head-on the one issue that other parenting books ignore altogether-the emotional tug-of-war between a father who feels he's doing everything he should solely by earning an income, and a stay-at-home or working mother who's exhausted and frustrated because she's not getting the support and involvement from her spouse that she wants. The national media have erupted with stories about why children need equal involvement from both their parents-from preventing youth violence to improving self-esteem, school grades, and emotional maturity. But until now, no one has addressed the glaring reality that talking about it is one thing and figuring out exactly how to do it is another.In many families, the responsibility for the children and for running the household remains dramatically out of kilter. Frequently, the woman is most frustrated and torn by the demands of juggling her roles as a mother, wife, and, very often, breadwinner. Sometimes it's the dad who can't seem to figure out how to prioritize the needs of his children, his wife, and his own career aspirations and personal goals. And having a father who agrees to watch the children doesn't necessarily mean he's involved if he's watching a ball game or working on his computer. Couples need to examine not only how much time a father spends with his children, but also what type of activities he participates in-when fathers understand why their involvement is so crucial to their child's development, it motivates them to make this time together more meaningful.Organized according to children's ages and stages, The Involved Father addresses how involvement issues change throughout the "seasons" of parenting. Dr. Frank synthesizes hundreds of interviews and insights from his 17 years as a family therapist to help families arrive at solutions that will bring balance and fairness into their lives, and help them rediscover the true rewards of parenting. As a father spends more time with his children, he becomes more competent; as he gains more experience with child care, he feels more confident; as he begins to sincerely enjoy his time with his children, it's more likely that he'll want to continue spending time with them. As parents work towards equilibrium in their households, they experience parenting as teamwork, not competition. In turn, time at work becomes more productive and meaningful, as does time at home. Parents communicate their needs to each other clearly without guilt or fear. So whether you're taking over the 2 a.m. feeding, volunteering to read to your child's kindergarten class, or finding out about your twelve year old's friends, having fathers who are equally involved as mothers in the parenting partnership lies at the very core of what it means to be a family. AUTHORBIO: Robert Frank, Ph.D., is one of the nation's leading researchers on fatherhood, parenting, and childcare issues. He holds a Ph.D. in educational psychology and has had a private practice in psychotherapy, specializing in family therapy, since 1985. He holds the position of Assistant Professor of Psychology at Oakton Community College, where he teaches classes in human and child development, and he hosts parenting seminars in the Chicago area. He lives with his wife, son, and daughter in Glenview, Illinois.Kathryn E. Livingston has been writing on parenting issues for the past fifteen years. She lives in Bergen County, NJ, with her husband and three sons.
Publisher: New York : St. Martin's Press, c1999
Branch Call Number: 306.8742 FRA
Characteristics: x, 276 p. ; 22 cm